Tears of Love Page Three

Created in memory of Lovie Ann Compton

December 4, 1937 - September 6, 2003

I would also like to dedicate this page to the memory of my beautiful daughter, Beverly Nash Trejo

October 14, 1972 - May 2, 2005

This is a website designed specifically for anyone who has or knows someone who has cancer, or any other life threatening illness. Come and share your feelings with people who have been where you are and can understand your grief and pain.

I lost my mother to lung cancer on the 6th of September, 2003. That day has permanently planted its sorrow and pain in my heart. It is almost as if the world just came to a halt at that moment for me.I know that it didn't really come to a stop, because I see it going on around me. Does that make sense? I see everyone going on with their everyday happenings, and I know in my mind that that is the way it must be, but at the same time my heart just wants to cry out to them- "Hey! Can't you see? My mother is gone!! Bring her back! How can you just go on going on- my mother is dead!" I can't even begin to tell you how it ripped my heart out to see her go. I can't ever remember such a gut-wrenching pain and emptiness in my entire life. My mother and I did not visit every day, because we did not live in the same town, but there was rarely a day that we didn't at least talk on the phone for a little while. She was only diagnosed with the cancer a few short months before, but with her already being so frail from C.O.P.D.,she was just too weak to go through cancer treatments, so she went very fast.We had only buried her own mother just five weeks before, so I lost my grandmother and my mother in a little over a month. How do I say this without sounding selfish? I would not have wanted my mother to suffer one more day just to spare me the pain and anguish of losing her, but I am having a very hard time grasping the reality and the finality of her dying, and would really love to hear from any of you who either have been through this, or maybe you too, have a loved one who is terminally ill and would just like to have someone to talk to. please email me at jnashone@yahoo.com

The Lord saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be,
So He put his arms around you
And whispered, "Come with me."

With tearful eyes, we watched you suffer
And saw you fade away,
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.

A golden heart stopped beating,
A beautiful smile at rest,
God broke our hearts to prove
He only takes the best.

It's lonesome here without you
We miss you so each day,
Our lives aren't the same
Since you went away.

When days are sad and lonely,
And everything goes wrong,
We seem to hear you whisper,
"Cheer up and carry on."

Each time we see your picture,
You seem to smile and say,
"Don't cry, I'm in God's keeping,
We'll meet again someday."

Rhonda Braswell

Beverly was only 32 years old when she lost her battle to cervical cancer. I thought it was hard when I lost my mother, but I don't believe I have ever felt such excruciating pain in my life as the pain I felt when my little girl took her last breath and left this world. There is no way to even begin to describe how it feels to outlive your children. She was such a beautiful young woman. Someone tell me, how does a mother go on after burying a child. It just isn't right.

A place to offer support and comfort to anyone whose loved one has cancer or any other life threatening illness. This is not a medical site. This is a compassionate site for sharing the pain and being able to help each other by praying and offering emotional support. Please feel free to use the form on page two to send me your stories or comments.

Did you know that someone is diagnosed with breast cancer every 3 minutes?

This month is breast cancer awareness month, so we will be dedicating this page specifically for articles, links, and stories pertaining to breast cancer. PLEASE, if you have not been already, go for your mammogram; do your breast self-exam; don't put it off. Early detection is SO important in surviving breast cancer.

Identifying the Signs of Breast Cancer (article by Anne Wolski)

Breast cancer is the most common type of cancer in women and the leading cause of cancer deaths.

Every woman's breasts are different so it is important for each individual woman to be familiar with her breasts in order to recognize any peculiarities.

Unfortunately, the early stages of breast cancer may not have any symptoms. This is why it is important to follow screening recommendations. As a tumor grows in size, it can produce a variety of symptoms including:

* lump or thickening in the breast or underarm * change in size or shape of the breast * nipple discharge or nipple turning inward * redness or scaling of the skin or nipple * ridges or pitting of the breast skin

If you experience these symptoms, it doesn't necessarily mean you have breast cancer, but you need to be examined by a doctor.

Breast cancer is very rare before age 20 and is rarely diagnosed in women younger than age 25. Past that age, the incidence rises steadily to reach a peak around the age of menopause. The rate of increase is lessened after menopause, but older women are still at increasing risk over time.

Although a specific cause for breast cancer has not been identified, there are risk factors that increase the likelihood that a woman will develop a breast cancer. These risks include:

* Maternal relative with breast cancer. * Women who start their menstruation early and/or go into early menopause, increasing the length of reproductive years, are at greater risk. * Obesity. Women who are overweight are at increased risk * Women who have never had children are at greater risk. * Women who had their first child over age 30 are at greater risk. * Previous breast cancer. * Previous endometrial cancer.

Aside from the genetic predisposition, the common factor in many of these risks is increased endogenous estrogen exposure over a long time.

It is recommended that women over 35 check their breasts monthly. However, it is also important that all women do regular breast checks. Your doctor can show you how to effectively check your breasts. Any lump, regardless of size, should be reported to your doctor. Many of these lumps are simply fatty lumps or cysts but it is far better to be safe than sorry.

Catching breast cancer early makes a big difference in the type of treatment needed as well as the overall prognosis.

Anne Wolski has worked within the health and welfare industry for more than 30 years.

Got an article about Breast Cancer? Post it here! Just click on the link below to go to page two and use the handy form on that page to send it, and I will post it in this spot.

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