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Through Tears of Love - Sharing Grief & Loss

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Created in memory of Lovie Ann Compton
December 4, 1937 -  September 6, 2003
      We miss you Mother!


This is a website designed specifically for anyone who has lost (or is losing) a loved one. Come and share your feelings with people who have been where you are and can understand your grief and pain.


Our Mission

A place to offer support and comfort to anyone whose loved one has died or is terminally ill. This is not a medical site. This is a compassionate site for grief and loss.


I just lost my mother to lung cancer a few short weeks ago, on the 6th of September.That day has permantly planted its sorrow and pain in my heart. It is almost as if the world just came to a halt at that moment for me.I know that it didn't really come to a stop, because I see it going on around me. Does that make sense? I see everyone going on with their everyday happenings, and I know in my mind that that is the way it must be, but at the same time my heart just wants to cry out to them- "Hey! Can't you see? My mother is gone!! Bring her back! How can you just go on going on- my mother is dead!" I can't even begin to tell you how it ripped my heart out to see her go. I can't ever remember such a gut-wrenching pain and emptiness in my entire life. My mother and I did not visit every day, because we did not live in the same town, but there was rarely a day that we didn't at least talk on the phone for a little while. She was only diagnosed with the cancer a few short months ago, but with her already being so frail from C.O.P.D.,she was just too weak to go through cancer treatments, so she went very fast.We had only buried her own mother just five weeks before, so I lost my grandmother and my mother in a little over a month. How do I say this without sounding selfish? I would not have wanted my mother to suffer one more day just to spare me the pain and anguish of losing her, but I am having a very hard time grasping the reality and the finality of her dying, and would really love to hear from any of you who either have been through this, or maybe you too, have a loved one who is terminally ill and would just like to have someone to talk to. That is why I created this site. I have added a live chat room below so please feel free to come and talk anytime you feel like it, but also, I would like to have your input of how you have dealt with or are dealing with your loss, so please email me at . I plan to post the message part (I will not post your last name or email address unless you specifically request that) of each mail on the page for others to read, because I feel that there is 'strength in numbers', as the old saying goes. I believe that if we all just join in here and talk about it, then maybe it will ease some of the pain. If you do not want your message to be posted, please specify that in your email. Photos are welcome, and if you have a poem, or  a quote, or anything that you would like to share, please do include it in your email.


Thank you so much for visiting my website. Please sign the guest book below and do come back often.

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The Lord saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be,
So He put his arms around you
And whispered, "Come with me."
With tearful eyes, we watched you suffer
And saw you fade away,
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating,
A beautiful smile at rest,
God broke our hearts to prove
He only takes the best.
It's lonesome here without you
We miss you so each day,
Our lives aren't the same
Since you went away.
When days are sad and lonely,
And everything goes wrong,
We seem to hear you whisper,
"Cheer up and carry on."
Each time we see your picture,
You seem to smile and say,
"Don't cry, I'm in God's keeping,
We'll meet again someday."
Rhonda Braswell



I read an article about cancer deaths in our state. Can you believe that in 2002, over 98 HUNDRED people died of cancer in Alabama alone? The article said that 55 people die each day in Alabama with cancer. That is too much! Isn't there something that can be done? Find out what those numbers are in your state, and email me, or put them in the guestbook, and I will post them here.


Well, folks, Thanksgiving is almost here. I am not really looking forward to going home for the hollidays this time with Mother not being there, but I guess we will handle it somehow. I will make the dressing this time--but it won't be anywhere near as good as hers. Does it ever get any easier to live without them? I still start to cry at the least little thing that reminds me that she is not coming back.  I really would love to hear from any of you who are going through this, because to be honest with you, I just really don't know how to deal with it.


Note: "Bravenet" and I do not have all the 'kinks' worked out on here yet, so when you go to the chat room, if you click 'return to website' you will be taken to  my other site(Blue Dawn's Native Genealogy), instead of returning to this page. If you wish to return to this page, please just click your back button until we can get this problem solved. Thanks!

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